You Are Never Going To Believe This


Heeeelllllooooo everyone!


I feel like these last few months have just run over me; some great, other parts not-so-great, and a few moments have just been insane.

Can we talk about “insane,” for a few minutes here? Because here is something that I cannot even wrap my head around, and I’d love it if you all could join me in shock, awe, and horror:

Set Previous Stage:
Do you remember the last time I took my ex to court? It was the 3rd or 4th time we had gone due to his failure to pay child support, and as usual he whined and cried that he was poor, basically homeless, and had not a penny to his name. Then, in a shocking twist, it came out that he was married and had new kids. He begged and pleaded for one more chance to make things right, because his “kids” (not referring to the ones he abandoned) needed him, and the judge bought the whole damn charade.

Set Recent Stage: Last December, after being given another opportunity to stay out of jail and pay down his arrearages, my ex stopped contributing to the kids medical bills, daycare costs, etc, and fell behind on paying child support. I offered him an agreement to get caught up, just so we could stay out of court, he denied it, and I filed a court petition.

Set Current Stage: My ex hired an attorney. Yep! The man cannot afford to pay his child support, yet he can afford an attorney to explain why he shouldn’t have to pay child support. Oh but wait! He actually CAN afford support, because after lying on his financial affadavits all these years, after hiring an attorney who has the responsibility to have his client surrender certain financial documents to the other party (us), SURPRISE SURPRISE out comes the truth; the ex and his wife make nearly 100k a year.

You read that right (although at first I didn’t think I had).

In fact when Mr. Attorney Man first send me my ex’s financial documents, my email back to him said “please tell me that I have not forgotten the order in which numbers proceed, and my ex and his wife do not make 95k a year…”

But, I had read it correctly, and yes, apparently my ex has been lying as usual.

All those years that I spent feeding my kids at the food pantry and sitting in welfare offices while trying to get back on my feet after being abandoned with two kids, my ex was living JUST FINE, and had managed to successfully hide it all.

To say that I was initially mad is an understatement, and to add to it, my ex’s new attorney is… well let’s just say his identity is almost more shocking than the life my ex has been successfully hiding. But, I can’t share everything just yet because my own Mr. Attorney Man would kill me. But it’s crazy. Like my craziest story yet. So after court is finished in a few weeks, when it doesn’t matter if sneaky little eyes are following this blog, make some popcorn and get your asses back here.


You’re going to want to trust me on this one.

Anyhoo, ex drama aside, we have just been busy. As. Hell.

Not counting The Girl Child convincing The Boy Child to cut her hair, the kids have been great!

So other than having a couple of our family members pretending that they had opened an in-home hair salon, we finished up the summer by filling our time with Equestrian Therapy, swimming lessons, local events, and spending a lot of time together as a family.
We went to a historical town that I’ve been wanting to take the kids to for years…

And the kids had a blast at their daycare fun fair.

We went to a BBQ that Frisbee Boy’s Mom had, where she had made just a little bit of food.

Seriously, we practically all exploded starved to death.

And this photo… I’m just going to leave this one right here… because… butter.


We also spent a lot of time at the local splash pad.

And an afternoon at a Chuck E. Cheese arcade birthday party

There was a family trip to the zoo, where The Boy Child made friends with a penguin.

And of course we can’t forget this night…

Thankfully I did manage a few fun nights out as well, like this night, where The Guy and I got all gussied up and then I nearly walked in on some people having sex in a public bathroom.

So that was interesting.

But do you know what else is interesting terrifying?

The time I tried the face swap app and swapped faces with an American Girl doll.

The results were nothing short of terrifying, so naturally then I made The Guy do it too, and it was equally as unsettling.

I will never look at that doll the same way again.

But anyway… so yes, summer. We rocked it. And now the Girl Child is now happily settled into 4th grade, and as always she continues to find the joy in every moment of her life. It’s literally impossible to watch her zest for living and not smile, and she reminds me daily of just how lucky we all are to be walking this planet. This summer brought about it some physical triumphs, and we finally shed her braces and packed up the wheelchair. I can’t believe how much stronger she is getting, and I am excited to see her continuing to progress, in what was supposed to actually get worse.

The Boy Child is in first grade (oh be still my heart!!), and spends half the day in a “regular” classroom with an aide, and half the day in a special education classroom. After having an awful teacher last year, this year is off to a great start. Unfortunately he broke his seizure free streak last week with an early morning seizure, but he hasn’t had once since so I’m still very pleased with his progress. (I’m going to interject here to link you over to an article I just finished on the ROUGH year we had last year. Did I tell you guys that his kindergarten teacher last year, walked him out to me, placed his hand in mine, and told me that she HATED my son? RAGE. All the rage.)

First day of school

As for The Guy and I, our flooded house remodel is finally finished, and I am working on a photographic post now, to take you guys on a tour!

And if I may brag for a minute (which I am warning you is about to happen right now, so if you hate that kind of stuff, here’s your warning: HURRY! Leave! CLICK HERE to be redirected away from things that rile you up!!”)….

….The nonprofit is doing AMAZING! Not only do we currently have our highest number of clients yet, but we also have staff now (although myself, and every member of our board still remain volunteers), and are networked will all the local DV agencies. We get to see the lives of DV victims changing every day, and… it just feels amazing to know that something good came out of my tragedy.

I’m a little bit proud of myself here.

But anyway, enough bragging.

As I warned you, I’ve been transitioning a lot of what used to be here, over to Facebook, just to try and simplify my life a bit. I have so much that I love to share with you all, yet don’t always have the time to sit down and do it here. As Mr. Attorney Man and I venture into our newest endeavor (anyone need to hire some motivational/informative speakers on all things DV?), I plan to continue integrating my daily life into my social media accounts so that I can take you all with me!

But before I leave, just in case no one has told you yet today. YOU are beautiful. Yep, YOU. You gorgeous, handsome, sexy, hilarious, compassionate, smart, and amazing group of people. I guarantee that if I sat down in a room full of you people, that there wouldn’t be one person that I couldn’t find something to love about. YOU.

YOU are amazing, and YOU are an asset to this world. Screw everything you don’t like about yourself today, because today, you should focus on the one thing you love.

Just feel loved today.

YOU are worthy of it.


If you are looking for a “real” post to read today, or if you want to read the article about my son’s kindergarten teacher last you, I’ve been busy over at Babble and you can find those articles here!

To my fellow Warrior Parents, this one is for you!!!
I am SHOCKED that we don’t talk about this more often. How can we not be teaching our kids this!?
It was all the gossip I was looking for, and a few surprises!

We all need to remember the lessons learned here; because it’s what our kids will remember.

This cop wins the Internet. Seriously.

What an excellent reminder to anyone raising kids in a split parent household. Bravo to the family in this story!!

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  • Eatabagofrichards
    August 30, 2017 at 12:15 pm

    Sounds like an awesome, if insane, summer! I'm so stoked to see your ex finally get his come-uppance!!!!

    • NotMyShametoBear
      August 31, 2017 at 10:27 am

      Me too lol!! YAAYY!!

  • Facebook
    August 30, 2017 at 5:29 pm

    Love, Love, Love you…You are an awesome mamma!! My gf/sister is going through something similar and I told her to keep her head up that one day all the lies her ex has told will come to light and catch him up…Well, that time is hapening now…I hope for your kids that they finally get the monetary support they deserve…What an asshat your ex is and you can believe I'm not the only one waiting popcorn in hand…. Love, Light, and Blessings on you and yours…

  • Facebook
    August 30, 2017 at 5:30 pm

    My husband at one point in time, made that much money annually. His support for his two kids was around $1k a month. I don't know what state your in, but if you're getting less than that, fight it! I think I remember reading your support amount was only a couple of hundred dollars. Hope Mr Attorney man works it all out. Sending you much love! ?

  • Facebook
    August 30, 2017 at 5:31 pm

    Figures. One lie turns into another. He's a low life piece of shit. Can I say that without being banned? lol

  • Facebook
    August 30, 2017 at 5:32 pm


  • Facebook
    August 30, 2017 at 5:56 pm

    That's insanely low!!! Wow.

  • Spider - Man
    August 30, 2017 at 7:01 pm

    That hurts my heart. Why does he hate his children? I want to cry. I'm sorry, Eden. Although I wouldn't be surprised if he actually was 'poor' because he's probably too dumb to live within his means and spends money on drugs and toys and then wonders where all his money went. I know a lot of people who make 150k and spend 200k a year and think they're struggling.

    • NotMyShametoBear
      August 31, 2017 at 10:27 am

      I’d believe it. You should seriously see the guy. NO TEETH. Not even dentures. Like really? You have money, but can’t even buy yourself some teeth? THIS IS A BIG PROBLEM.

  • Instagram
    August 31, 2017 at 2:46 pm


  • Instagram
    August 31, 2017 at 2:46 pm

    I can never unsee this…terrifying!

  • afairytale84
    September 1, 2017 at 12:11 am

    Oh, man. I would be LIVID. I swear the more I read about him, the more he reminds me of my father. I am so sorry you're dealing with this.Looks like besides the ex nonsense, you've had a good summer. <3

    • NotMyShametoBear
      September 1, 2017 at 12:42 pm

      Some people! ((shakes head!!!))

      It was a very good summer! How about you?

  • Facebook
    September 1, 2017 at 5:41 pm

    That American doll bit was hilarious. My husband has a bit of a phobia of creepy looking dolls so I will have to show him. ? On a more serious note, you are really exposing how unjust the system is. It is unbelievable.

  • Bria LaPoint
    November 2, 2017 at 12:01 pm

    I read your story, it was very sad, but I am also at a crossroads. After my Mother died (she was the decent one in my story) the rest of my family continued their absuse with lies and emotional abuse. I want nothing to do with my Dad, who obviously thought women shouldnt work then all of a sudden i should just go out and get a job? Husband works, it is what works for us, but my sister in law promised to help us out and it was a big lie.

    • NotMyShametoBear
      November 5, 2017 at 9:29 am

      Family drama is so difficult 🙁

  • Bria LaPoint
    November 2, 2017 at 12:02 pm

    Oh yes some advice, most of the bad families are Christian. I hope you dont raise your children that way. They will have more compassion without Christianity.

  • NotMyShametoBear
    November 5, 2017 at 9:30 am

    We are very strong Christian’s actually. But, there is a difference between living the values of a Christian life, and using Christianity as a means to judge and ridicule someone.


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