That Time I Accidentally Did Porn


Last Monday I was driving to work and surprise, surprise, there was construction on the two lane road that I needed to be on. The entire road was down to one lane in some spots, meaning that everyone on one side of the road would have to stop and wait while the cars on the other side of the road took a turn driving. I’m sure most of you know what I’m describing, right? If so, you also know what I’m talking about when I mention the construction worker whose job it is to direct which side of the road is supposed to be driving — and he does that by holding up a sign that says “drive” on one side, and “stop” on the other side.

You must know what I’m talking about.

So anyway, I’m driving along, praying out loud that he won’t flip the stop sign towards my side before it’s my turn to pass, and as I approach Mr. Sign Man at the whopping 12mph that we are all driving at, sure enough he flips the stop sign towards me.

Stupid, stupid.

And as I’m sitting there, cursing out the stop sign, he walks over, pulls a piece of paper out of his pocket, hands it to me through my window, and tells me to have a nice day.

“What on earth…” I’m thinking to myself as I open the little note that reminds me of something that would have been passed to me in the 7th grade, and lo and behold, it’s Mr. Sign Man’s phone number.

I have to say, I can’t decide if that is super weird, or totally ingenious. Seriously, like how many hours /days/weeks/months/ do you think he stood there holding that sign, bored out of his mind as he watched girls slowly drive past him before he had the idea to fill his pocket up with post-it note digits, and hand them out.

I think I might actually call him, not to set up a date or anything, but just because I want to tell him how awesome he is.

At least that guy had tact, unlike the man that I am about to discuss with you in the rest of this article, the actual reason for this post.

Now first off, a disclaimer: I AM AN IDIOT.

(Which many of you already knew)

You see, I’ve never had curtains in my room. Since the day I moved into this house, there has been wood slat blinds on the windows, and while blocking out the view, they have never really blocked out the sun. For the most part it hasn’t bothered me, but now that The Boy Child is destructive mobile and no longer sleeps in a crib, I sleep with my door open so that I can hear when he starts to burn the house down wakes up. But the way my upstairs is laid out, when my bedroom door is open, my window shines directly into his room. And closing his door doesn’t help because he has glass doors.

In this pic I’m standing in front of my window looking at The Boy Child’s room. You can see his bed through his doors, directly in line with my window.

And clearly, no pun intended, closing his door doesn’t help block out anything.
So now that summer is rolling around and the sun is coming up earlier, I’ve had enough 5am wake up calls that I decided to save his life that it was time to buy curtains. I’m on the budget plan and couldn’t really afford anything too snazzy, so when I found some $9 curtains that promised to at least soften the light, I figured that they were better than nothing.

I took them home, hemmed them to fit the window, hung them up, although they didn’t make a significant difference, I was going to try and roll with it.

ENTER: The problem.

The other day, my neighbor, the creepy one who keeps hitting on me and gave me that forced kiss on the top of my head, well, I had a little chat with him.

I was outside about to take a walk with the kids and he came strutting over. “Hey Eden, ya need anything done around your house?”

“No, not from you ya creep” was what I was thinking, but instead I politely (be so proud) said “nah, I can’t afford to turn you into my own personal houseboy, your girlfriend already doesn’t like me.”

“She don’t like nobody, you know that” he said.

I replied “Yea, well either way, I’m pretty sure she could kick my ass so I’m going to try and keep her on my good side,” which was about the only thing I could come up with other than “sorry, you freak me out too much to want to be alone with you.”

“Well, just remember, I’m here to do anything you need, anytime” he said, leaning towards me.

“Uh, ok… thanks” I muttered out, a little unsure of the inflection he was adding in at the end.

“No, really sweetheart, I mean anything, anytime. Anything done to the house, or anything done, you know, to you.”

HOLD THE FUCK UP.

Did he really just say that?

I rarely find myself speechless, especially around men that I’m about to turn down, but this was like a whole new level of wtf.

I stood there so long that he just started talking again. “I know you like to have fun, I see the cars parked outside of your house sometimes until 3 or 4 in the morning (which P.S. is indicative of nothing, women tend to use my house as a safe haven, but thanks for calling me a whore). My girlfriend, she doesn’t give it to me anymore. Too many teenagers in the house, she is always afraid they will hear us.”

Yes! Girlfriend! He has a girlfriend!! That’s my out!!!

About as forcefully as I was able to, I said “Yea, but again, you know, girlfriend. I’ve been cheated on before and I don’t want any part of it. I’m actually insulted that you would even put me in that position.” 

AND YET HE JUST KEPT ON TALKING, continuing with “What she doesn’t know won’t hurt her, and from what I can see, you’re having the kind of fun I’d like to be having.”

Enter: THAT + GAG ME + WTF = ME AT THAT MOMENT.

He then reached down and briefly touched his dick. I am not even making this up. He did this while my children were riding their bikes behind me. I am not even making this up. 

I AM NOT EVEN MAKING THIS UP.

I just stood there in unblinking shock and yet at the same time I still had a question: “Uh… the fun that you can see I’m having?” I hesitantly asked him, because hello, WHAT DOES HE MEAN, “THAT HE CAN SEE?”

“Oh come on now Eden,” he whined. “You know you are teasing me with those curtains, looking all sexy and cute, strutting around every night, and yea, I’ve seen you a couple times with that guy.”

I was so confused at this point that I didn’t even know what to say. My brain was racing a million miles a minute as I was trying to piece together the tiny bits of information that he was giving me; piece them into something that makes any sort of logical sense. Yes, I have new curtains, yes, I’ve occasionally had someone over, yes, I’ve messed around, but no I haven’t slept with any anyone, and yet more importantly WHAT DOES HE MEAN HE CAN SEE ME???

“Come on Eden, let’s just work something out. My girlfriend would never have to know, we could have an arrangement” he literally begged.

I was not only confused, but so totally disgusted at this point that I basically said something to the affect of “IT’S NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN” and walked away.

Later that night when I got undressed, still totally skeeved from the earlier conversation, I glanced at the window to make sure that the curtains were in fact still closed. Seeing that they were and still perplexed, I made my way over to the window.

It wasn’t until I peeked through the curtains did I realize my horrific mistake.

Yep, the curtains had been closed—the white, light filtering curtains— they were closed alright, closed while hanging over the WIDE OPEN BLINDS.

I am such an idiot.

I had opened the blinds at some point when I was hanging the curtains, and then never closed them again. I didn’t notice that they weren’t closed because I’m rarely in my room during the day. I rush out of there in the mornings and often don’t go back in there until it’s dark, and at night it’s so dark outside over the field that there is nothing to shine through from the outside, and in turn alert me to the fact that the blinds were open.

At night, with a lamp to the left, you can’t tell that the blinds behind the curtains are open

So every night when all the lights have been on inside my bedroom, anyone standing on the sidewalk outside and looking into my window, has gotten a perfect silhouette view of EVERYTHING going on inside my bedroom; right through my cheap $9 filtering curtains.

A view through a window which is conveniently placed, right here:


Just let that sink in for a minute.

Oh, and that door, the one to the right of the bed, yea, that’s my bathroom. Where I shower. And get out of the shower. And dry my hair… naked (because really, is there any other way to do it?). Although I’m not totally sure that anyone can see into the bathroom via the viewing angle from the sidewalk, I know how many times I walk in and out of there while getting ready, and as I’m suddenly very aware, I do not own a robe.

So basically everything that goes on in a typical bedroom. (and bathroom), the nudity, the nudity + fun with friends, yep, I’ve been unintentionally broadcasting that to the entire neighborhood through my light filtering, non-discrete, cheap ass $9 curtains.

Well that’s just wonderful.

Thankfully, while I have been having a little fun with the male species, I didn’t actually do “the” deed so there shouldn’t be any hardcore porn with me in it floating around. But, I’m not totally convinced that the creepy neighbor dude hasn’t started some kind of cell phone-photo album filled with my naked moments, to be used when his girlfriend won’t get with him.

I’m gagging so hard right now.

Window, FAIL. Idiot, PROVEN.

Now I need to wipe this entire experience from my brain, and you know how that is done?

With a grown up drink and TV time. Possibly naked, because it is my bedroom you know.

Or am I really naked? 

I guess you will never know, and since I’ve finally closed the blinds, the neighbors won’t know either.

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26 Comments

  • Joel
    May 8, 2015 at 12:00 pm

    You could call the cops and report this guy as a peeping tom, seeing as he admitted it. Can you get him to admit it again in front of a witness? You never know. The perv might just end up on the sec offense registry. Fact is, he's in the wrong here, not you.

  • Joel
    May 8, 2015 at 12:02 pm

    … On the sex offender registry… My autocorrect always corrects sex to sec. Like it's a taboo term or something.

    • NotMyShametoBear
      May 10, 2015 at 7:36 am

      But is it illegal if he was just standing on the sidewalk? I always thought that you had to be like actively trying to peer into someone’s house for it to be legally wrong. Yes? Now?

      PLEASE ADVISE. 🙂

  • Katy Anders
    May 8, 2015 at 1:56 pm

    Whoa… To hell with him. He's frustrated about the way his private life is going and is resorting to looking into neighbors windows. But the show is over. Live and learn…

    • NotMyShametoBear
      May 10, 2015 at 7:35 am

      Haha! I bet that’s exactly it! I can’t even believe he has a girlfriend. I really don’t get it. She has a great job, he doesn’t even have one. She isn’t too shabby looking, he barely showers. BUT, she is SO mean. I mean like she is the neighborhood woman with a broom chasing after people, so maybe they aren’t such a bad pair afterall!

  • Mzfuzz
    May 8, 2015 at 2:17 pm

    Oh noes!! lol That's something I've always been terrified I'll do unknowningly, too. But I did giggle, a little bit.But seriously, your neighbor is a fucking CREEP. Might not be a bad idea to make it really clear to him that no matter what he has assumed, you're not even remotely interested, and if he keeps bothering you, you'll get a restraining order. He needs to know that the fantasy he's built up in his head is NOT reality, even in the slightest. *shudder*

    • NotMyShametoBear
      May 10, 2015 at 7:33 am

      Has he really done anything wrong though, outside of being gross? I mean I was the one who was accidently broadcasting my life to the world and he was just watching from the sidewalk. Kinda seems like my fault. :/

      Thoughts my dear?

  • snork maiden
    May 8, 2015 at 8:43 pm

    So much yuck. Report this guy the moment he does anything reportable.

    • NotMyShametoBear
      May 10, 2015 at 7:32 am

      Yes ma’am! 😉 He is so yucky

  • Anonymous
    May 8, 2015 at 11:21 pm

    Christ how old are you? I thought the “oops I wore a thing under a short skirt and didn't realize that was a terrible idea” post was bad but your life just seems like one step of incompetence and bad decision making after another and then congratulating yourself for being “strong” enough to deal with the fallout of your consistent half assed decision making.This whole blog can be summed up as “tee her I'm sooooo dumb you guys but here's why I look on the bright side!”

    • NotMyShametoBear
      May 8, 2015 at 6:52 am

      “Not My Shame, bringing you train wreck entertainment since 2013. Written by a less-than-perfect human being just enjoying her life. Don’t like it, feel free to find the exit.”

      Have a WONDERFUL evening!! 😉

  • Anonymous
    May 9, 2015 at 7:33 am

    How embarrassing! I have also done some very embarrassing things. What a disgusting man. I'm so sorry you are being sexually harassed like this.

    • NotMyShametoBear
      May 10, 2015 at 7:30 am

      You know it wasn’t until I started reading the comments that it had even occured to me that maybe he did something wrong. I thought he was just creepy…

  • Anonymous
    May 9, 2015 at 7:44 am

    I think you got it wrong here Anonymous. I don't agree with a lot of things Eden has said or done, but this particular situation with her neighbor is not herror fault. Eden was surrounded by terrible people her whole life who treated her like trash. I can totally relate. When you are surrounded by that, you tend to stay with what's familiar, which for her resulted in a bad choice in a husband at 18. How many of us would pick well at that age? But now she sees her value, her intelligence, etc. She is so funny, witty, and a very good writer. I don't know her but I like her. Bur Eden, I wish you didn't curse around your kids, I will say that. But I appreciate your blog because many learn from. The lessons you have learned have been so hard, few would have made it alive through it all. You haven't had a lot of choices about things that have happened to you, but you have chosen to respond to them with and in faith. As for this new situation, please be so careful. Your neighbor is sick. It seems attractive women attract the worst attention.

  • Anonymous
    May 9, 2015 at 7:46 am

    I think you got it wrong here Anonymous. I don't agree with a lot of things Eden has said or done, but this particular situation with her neighbor is not herror fault. Eden was surrounded by terrible people her whole life who treated her like trash. I can totally relate. When you are surrounded by that, you tend to stay with what's familiar, which for her resulted in a bad choice in a husband at 18. How many of us would pick well at that age? But now she sees her value, her intelligence, etc. She is so funny, witty, and a very good writer. I don't know her but I like her. Bur Eden, I wish you didn't curse around your kids, I will say that. But I appreciate your blog because many learn from. The lessons you have learned have been so hard, few would have made it alive through it all. You haven't had a lot of choices about things that have happened to you, but you have chosen to respond to them with and in faith. As for this new situation, please be so careful. Your neighbor is sick. It seems attractive women attract the worst attention.

  • Anonymous
    May 9, 2015 at 7:53 am

    I think blaming Eden for this sexual harassment is akin to blaming a woman for being raped. Seriously, your comment is very off-putting. I'm all for people taking responsibility and being accountable for their actions, but this is not Eden's fault. It wasn't her fault she grew up in a horrible family. It is not her fault she got abused by her husband. It's not her fault she got raped. She has taken all of this horrific and tried to be a living mom, a good friend, and a hard worker. Seriously, it would be nice for people to step off. No, she's not perfect, but I know I couldn't handle what life has thrown at her.

  • Anonymous
    May 9, 2015 at 3:05 pm

    I'm not blaming her for getting sexually harassed, that's on the guy, but even she admits she's a train wreck. And she writes in all caps how she's an idiot. So um, I'm just agreeing with her?

  • Anonymous
    May 9, 2015 at 3:08 pm

    I can totally see how that would happen. In the daytime picture of your room I think the blinds are closed and If it's still that bright I can see how them being open wouldn't be much of a difference!

    • NotMyShametoBear
      May 10, 2015 at 7:29 am

      Exactly!! There have been so many times when I’ve gone to close the blinds only to reallize they were already closed, which is why I eventually didn’t notice they were permanently open!

  • Anonymous
    May 9, 2015 at 3:22 pm

    No, you're not agreeing with her, you're criticizing her. She may claim to be an idiot, but clearly she isn't a complete moron because she got us all here. She writes about her life in a way that continuously goes against the “perfect facebook life” that so many other bloggers have and many of us find that refreshing. She has a great writing career, a nonprofit, two thriving kids, and more friends and dates than many of us have, so she can't be that awful. Do you even have that? I would find it hard to believe you do if you're filling your time reading blogs you don't like. You seem uptight, maybe you should open the blinds and let loose a little.

  • Joel
    May 10, 2015 at 3:48 pm

    Check the laws in your area. Just because you left the window open doesn't mean it's okay for him to look in. Just as leaving your door unlocked doesn't mean it's okay to walk in and steal your stuff. You did nothing wrong here. He did.

    • NotMyShametoBear
      May 12, 2015 at 9:43 am

      Interesting… I’ll have to look into it!! 🙂

      Thankfully I haven’t seen him at all lately, so that’s been a bonus 🙂

  • afairytale84
    May 11, 2015 at 11:01 pm

    If I'm not mistaken (and I very well could be – I'm so not educated in these issues) it's not illegal for him to be standing on the sidewalk and watching you. I remember a few years ago reading a story of a woman who tried to sue her neighbor for walking around his living room in the nude with the blinds open. Turns out she and her daughter were walking somewhere and they decided to take a short cut through the guy's back yard and her daughter saw…GASP…a PENIS! and she wanted to sue because her 10-year-old daughter was traumatized.Not the same thing, but I have a feeling he has to actually be like, creeping up on your house and peering through your windows for it to be a peeping incident.But I could be wrong.

    • NotMyShametoBear
      May 12, 2015 at 9:44 am

      Oh gosh, that’s crazy. People will sue for ANYTHING!!!!

  • afairytale84
    May 11, 2015 at 11:05 pm

    Heh, my blinds broke and I didn't realize it. I'm never home during the day and I have those light-reducing (but not eliminating) curtains that you can see through. Except at night with my lights on and the curtains closed, I can't really tell that my blinds were half-hanging from the window.I only noticed it because it was hot as hades the other day and I went to open my window. The window that looks directly into the bedroom of our next door neighbor. I have no idea how long they've been broken or if he's gotten any shows of my sex-free but naked-dancing-loving life, but…*sigh*I'm getting blinds after work tonight. And maybe investing in some solid curtains…

    • NotMyShametoBear
      May 12, 2015 at 9:44 am

      Haha!! I’m happy to hear that I’m not the only one!!! I mean… sorry you also had a broken blinds-naked problem….

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