The Threatening Female Friend (And All The Hateful Stuff She Said About Me To The Guy I’m Dating)
Shortly after I started dating this guy — who we will now refer to as The Guy (I know, I’ve gotten so creative with these names lately, haven’t I?) — I learned that he had a very close female friend. Aaaannnddd… I’m not going to lie; my radar signals went up. He hadn’t given me any reason to suspect anything and I’d like to think that I’m mature enough and secure enough to handle my man having a close female friend…. but let’s just say that I’m not always that mature.
Even when she would text him while we were on a date, asking him things such as “do you think that this outfit is too sexy?” I retained my composure (even though I was practically choking on my tongue). I was also mature when he went to a party with her (that I wasn’t invited to) and I saw a photo of them both having a great time together (although I almost needed to visit a dentist for jaw pain after clenching my mouth shut). I was still mature when she would refer to him with a cutesy little name, and I was even mature (and admittedly less secure) when she used him as her personal sounding board for all of her marital issues.
But that still doesn’t mean that it ever went away.